Rudeness Is Not a Personality Trait - It’s a Problem.
Who the fuck do you think you are?
Hi, I'm Maddison and I introduce my raw feelings and opinions on certain areas and subjects that have altered my outlook on my life and that have shaped me to be the person I am today. Please feel free to follow me on my journey through my life.🩶
I'm sure that when everyone was growing up, they were introduced to the concept of kindness and politeness. Whether that be from your family, carers or just the people you were surrounded with. These common traits whilst overlooked can create the atmosphere of who you are as a person. Because nobody likes a rude obnoxious person who only cares about themselves.
One day I was inside one of my favorite lessons and it was clearly apparent to everyone in the small class that our favorite teacher wasn't right. She looked drained and tired and I just wanted to hug her there and then because she shouldn't be feeling that way. If I could take some of her pressure away I would. Every movement she committed to was slow and fragile and that's how it was apparent that something was wrong. But of course, it would be extremely rude to ask her what was wrong because as students you don't have that close relationship with teachers and also asking her what was wrong might cause her to suffer further so I kept quiet.
Since this pin dropping silence was illuminating the room, I could tell everyone could feel the drop in the atmosphere. Everyone was being quiet. Which is respectfully probably what she needed at that moment.
But this girl who sat behind me decided to open her mouth. Now, she was respectful enough not to ask what the situation was, but she asked “Can you turn the heater on?” Whilst such a common phrase, you weren't there to experience the tone.
It was the most insincere and uncaring tone I have ever heard. No please. No Thank you. No nothing. And this grinded my gears so much when it was so clear that this rudeness was the last thing she needed. The teacher didn't hear her the first two times she said it, and so she asked “Pardon?” in the kindest way possible and the student behind me talked to her as though she was a five year old and enunciated “HEATER!”
Who the fuck do you think you are.
And the teacher still kindly gave her personal heater because she couldn't turn on the actual school heater. This rude interaction played on my mind for the rest of the week and it made me sick with rage. I know as you read this it seems like she wasnt that rude, but you had to be there to experience the tone and the facial expressions and the hand gestures. Because it was the most rudest thing and insincere interaction I have heard.
This caused that student to stay on my radar til this day and there have been other moments where she has been extremely rude as well to other teachers and only one teacher snapped back because it was extremely rude what she was saying.
Do you not have any self awareness to realise you are a horridly acting person?
The way you act towards certain people and scenarios, truly builds how people view your personality. This is because you could be extremely rude without knowing someone is struggling and your simple remarks or disingenuous words could cause that person to be pushed even further emotionally than physically possible.
This is why you should be more careful and precise in what you say and how you say it.
Being polite doesn't cost you anything and it makes you seem like the kindest person ever. By using a simple please and thank you, I believe it should be mandatory in speech as it can make people feel grateful for your interaction and it is just the kindest way to interact with a person. Even if what they do for you is so insignificant, say please and say thank you to show complete respect and kindness.
Sometimes one of my friends doesnt thank or please any stranger and I call them out any time this happens because the least they could do is show respect for the ones that go out of their day to help you.
So next time you have an interaction, be careful what you say because you don't know what anyone is going through and treating them with politeness, respect and kindness is the least you can do.
Be kind
Thank you for reading🩶
-Maddison🩶